Married Andrea seeks regular sex sessions with other couples and singles

My husband is crippled and unable to have sex anymore.  It took a long time to adjust to not having sex and although it sounds like I’m being selfish, I have spent many years like this, unable to get myself sexual satisfaction.  However, my husband is a good man, and he asked me about it, and actually assumed that I had been having sex elsewhere anyway.  When I told him I hadn’t he was mortified and decided that the best thing I could do would be to get myself some form of sexual entertainment.  We were always very liberated sexually, but I never thought I’d hear him saying this.  I guess this is what love is?

We looked into sex contacts on the internet and found it quite popular and easy to get involved in.  I didn’t really want to do anything special, just maybe feel a man against my body again.  I wanted him to be a good man, yet someone who understood my problem and didn’t encroach on my private life with my husband.  Well, as it turns out, this is exactly what the sex contacts websites all had in common; they encouraged you to simply have sexual relationships.  I found a guy and I’ve managed to maintain a healthy sex life with him without putting any strain at all on my marriage.  My husband and I are still intimate in some ways, but never to the level I get from my sex contact.

You must understand however, as much as I enjoy having sex with my contact, I do not love him at all.  I care about him and know a little about it, but not much.  This is my choice and I like to keep this distance between us.  Not only does it allow my marriage to remain unaffected by silly details, it also makes the sexual encounters that little bit more thrilling; the guy still feels like a stranger and I’ve found that I like that a lot.  Who says you need to have sex with your husband all the time to make a marriage work?  We are very happy together and I honestly think that even if it wasn’t for the accident, we may well have looked into this kind of sex contact service as a couple anyway; it isn’t as if we haven’t experimented before.

Some people I’ve chatted to via the online sex contacts websites have many partners out there and they like to swap around a little every now and then.  I can see the fun element of this, but personally I think that if I was to do this it might be pushing the boundaries of my marriage.  I went into the sex contacts world to find one man who I could see occasionally for no strings sex and that’s what I got; I really don’t think I’d be interested in a string of lovers, I don’t have the time or the energy!

Sarah ended her two year sex drought by hooking up with casual guys for regular sex

 

I’ve been single for over two years now.  I find it hard to meet guys because I don’t have a very forgiving job and my friends are few and far between.  Before I hooked up with UK sex dating I didn’t get any action at all in the bedroom (or anywhere else!), but now I can get my kicks and still maintain my lifestyle and job the way I want and need to.  Personally I think that relationships are getting dated now anyway, and I’m not just saying that because I haven’t been in one for a while.  When you consider how much stuff we all have to do these days it’s a wonder we find any time at all to spend with a “partner”.  Why have one?

So the sex dating thing allows me this freedom and it allows me to have lots of fun when I want it.  There are no risks involved at all the way I see it.  If you’re going out on your own or with friends to meet people in a pub or club when there has clearly been alcohol involved, you’re asking for more trouble than you’re going to get from a guy you’ve checked out online, you’ve been chatting with for weeks, and who isn’t going to be drunk when he meets you!  This is a huge bonus believe me.  The amount of guys in the city at work who try to get me down the pub when we’ve finished and then subsequently try to get in my knickers is astonishing; they should be ashamed of themselves, not people who use sex dating!

Don’t get me wrong though, I’m not seeing a hundred different guys.  I only see a few select guys that I’ve been seeing for a long time now.  If one of them decides that he’s had enough or wants someone else then I’ll probably move onto someone new.  This happens all the time in the sex dating community and the beauty of it is, is that no-one gets annoyed or upset by this event.  We all know that there is another sex dater just around the corner waiting to meet you and that you’ve probably got a number of them on the go at the same time.  All I will add to this is that if you do anything unprotected then you’re an idiot.  I don’t know anyone who does this and I’ve met a lot of people in this community.

It really is the ultimate freedom and something that our parents wouldn’t have dreamed of being able to do!  This is the way the world is evolving and it’s about time everyone realised that you don’t have to be in a long lasting, tolerant and monogamous relationship to live your life.  You can get support from friends and family, and have your sex elsewhere; my belief is that you should keep them all very separate indeed!

Sex loving Jayne can not get enough of her casual encounters

When it comes to dating I’ve never had too much trouble to tell the truth.  And no, I’m not particularly modest either!  LOL!  However, I do suffer with one problem when it comes to dating.  Some guys take a hell of a long time to get me into bed and I want to have sex almost straight away.  I understand how it works though, and it pisses me off.  If I jump into bed with a guy on our first date I get labelled a slag; if he does it he gets a pat on the back however.  You just can’t run with these social boundaries these days!  So I decided to take a different angle on dating.  Sex dating.

My experience of picking up guys in pubs and clubs hasn’t been the best by any means.  I’ve usually been a little worse for wear and the guys have been even worse, and I’ve always regretted it in the morning.  With sex dating it’s completely different because you know that the only reason you’re meeting the guy is to have sex with him.  What you have to remember is to check out his profile real good online first.  I’m not talking about what he does for a living or anything else like that, I’m talking about his body and the way he looks; it’s all about good sex!

That’s all I really wanted out of online sex dating, and so far that’s all I’ve had.  Granted, I’ve had a few disappointments, but this happens anyway when you’re going out trying to get laid!  I usually arrange to meet my dates in a pub or a coffee shop or something like that.  This way it’s easier to run away if someone else turns up; not that this has happened to me, but you need to be safe.  The great thing about meeting is that all that old style dating is gone.  You don’t have to have someone wearing a particular colour flower or scarf or whatever! LOL!  Now you’ve already seen them online and hopefully chatted to them too.  You should have plenty to talk about before you get them in the bedroom.

I know, I’m awful aren’t I?  The true predatory female.  But this is what I want to do, and it’s what the guys seem to like too.  There’s nothing like putting yourself on the same level as the guys in this day and age; why should they have all the fun anyway.  Do yourself a favour and use them as though they were toys, because essentially they are!

Paul tells all about his 3 experiences with female members from UK sex contacts

This is one hell of a tale!  I’ve never been so excited to tell anyone this story before.  I’ve been a member of a UK sex dating website for a few weeks now and I’ve been laid three times.  This is good for me.  It would usually take me around two years to get this much action on my own, generally because I’m a lazy git who never gets his arse off the sofa to go out and meet people.  As it happens I didn’t need to get my arse off the sofa because I could get all the action I needed by sitting completely still and comfortable on my sofa with the lap top.

The site put me in touch with these girls who all wanted to get laid.  Yes, you read it correctly, they all wanted to get laid above anything else!  They weren’t the slightest bit interested in me, what I did, what my aspirations in life were, or any of that claptrap; all they wanted was a good shag!  These girls have the brains of guys I reckon!  What more could you want?  I bet half the married men in the UK wish their wives were like this and didn’t bother them with the colour of the carpets etc!

To be brutally honest with you, I can’t even remember the name of the first girl I got laid with!  I know, it sounds bad doesn’t it?  However, I know that she’d be happy with that knowledge and she knows that if she wants a return visit she can contact me through the website anytime she likes.  Great isn’t it?  The last one I had was called Sarah and this was only a couple of nights ago.  I definitely be seeing her again.

Sarah was into some real kinky shit and I loved every minute of it.  The great thing about the sex dating website is that you can chat to the girl online for a while if you like before getting together; so I had a good idea what she was expecting and what she wanted to do on our sex date!  She was one of these bondage specialists or something; she’d been doing it for years with as many guys as she could find that would let her smack them around a little.  I didn’t mind as long as I got my way in the end; she agreed and a good night was had by us both (although I have to admit that I am a little sore around the rear end!)

As far as recommending it is concerned, I almost don’t want to because they’ll be more girls for me.  But when you see just how many girls are on these sites these days you’ll realise that they’re coming out of the kitchen guys because they all just want a good seeing to with no strings attached.

Shy Andrew on his experience with a sexy casual fling in a hotel

It’s not easy being a man!  All the women I’ve ever met think that it’s not easy being a woman and that men have it perfectly easy all the time, but they’re so wrong.  I don’t know if I have a confidence issue or what, but it just seems to me that all the other guys out there are better at relationships than me.  I’ve never been able to hold one down for long, and it’s not because I’m unloveable or anything like that, it’s just that I like my own space a little too much.

I also lack a lot of charm when it comes to chatting up women; I’ve never been any good at it to be perfectly honest with you.  Ever since I was in school I could never just walk up to a member of the opposite sex and begin talking like you see guys doing all the time these days in the pubs and clubs.  I just didn’t have it in me, and still don’t.  However, I do have needs and I need to get them seen to.  This is why I’ve recently joined a UK sex dating website.  Sex is an important part of my life that has suffered immensely due to my terrible trouble talking to women, but I’ve decided that I’m still going to get what I want, and what every man deserves to have.

So the other day I had my first sex contact and that’s what’s inspired me to write this down.  She was amazing.  I didn’t think that I could do it to be perfectly honest, but once I’d registered I found that the process was so easy I just did it.  The girls on the site were all pretty good (there were a few rough ones yes).  I met Francesca last Friday night at the pub and we hit it off straight away.  The beauty of this meeting was that it wasn’t her first sex contact meeting and she was very relaxed.  She asked me if I had a problem with the fact that she’d seen other men through this and I said no as long as she’d practiced safe sex.  When she said that she never did anything unprotected I was put at ease immediately and excused myself to go to the toilet to get some condoms.  It was liberating to say the least going to get condoms when I’d only just met a girl and had one drink.  Knowing that you’re going to have sex is one hell of an ice-breaker let me tell you.

We ended up going to a nearby hotel.  We split the bill down the middle which was nice, despite me offering to pay it all.  What was wonderful about all this was that Francesca was probably the type of girl I’d go for anyway, if I ever had the balls to ask her out in the pub; but now I didn’t have to.  We got it on almost immediately and had such a session I could hardly walk the next day.  We’ll be seeing each other again pretty soon (hopefully!) and she said she liked me a lot.

Leeds slut Jessica is now a serial sex dater

My name is Jessica and I’m a serial sex dater.  There, I’ve said it, and it almost feels like I’ve come along to sex daters anonymous to cure myself of an addiction; however, this is certainly not something I would even consider curing because it’s changed my life!  Some people say that women shouldn’t engage in this sort of activity, but the way I see it is that these people are probably those who don’t have the courage to go through with it.  As a single woman of independent means, I am totally confident in my decision to go into UK sex dating, and I do it with my eyes wide open.  I know just what I’m doing and I am not (as some people like to think) being taken advantage of.

You see, this is the problem.  When a man goes sex dating it’s considered either typical or acceptable, but when a woman does it some people think that you’re going to get attacked or something worse.  There is no difference between the male or female when it comes to wanting to have sex with a stranger.  If you want to get laid you go out and you try to chat someone up don’t you?  Well, I’m no good at that, but it doesn’t mean I don’t want to have fun with guys who feel the same as me!

I must confess that I did feel a little nervous when I registered etc.  I thought I would be bombarded by a load of horny deadbeats, but it simply wasn’t like that at all.  The guys who contacted me seemed just as unsure as I was in the beginning.  They were all perfectly honest, polite and enjoyed chatting with me as much as I them.  Now, we all know why we were chatting, we’re not fools; it’s just a way of breaking ice.  Eventually I got down to the nitty gritty with one guy online and we arranged to meet.  I’d seen his pictures and he was so hot it was unbelievable; probably the hottest guy I’ve ever hooked up with.

We met in a pub near a hotel that we’d both agreed on staying in for the night (or however long we wanted!)  His name was Graham and he was a really nice guy.  If it hadn’t been for the fact that I seriously didn’t want a relationship and neither did he, I might have actually considered dating him on a regular basis.  However, what you need to understand about sex dating is that no-one really wants to do this!

The evening didn’t last long in the pub.  We skipped over to the hotel and did the deed several times and it was amazing.  I won’t go into all the details with you here, I could write an erotic novel about the encounter!  I have since seen Graham on three more occasions and each of them has been as good as the first time; in fact I’d even go so far as to say they have been better because we’re more familiar with each other now and know what the other wants out of sex!

Tom & Isabella from Bristol are now regular fuck buddies

My name is Tom and I’m a little agoraphobic.  This is a condition that prevents you going out.  It’s quite a serious condition and I’m grateful that I don’t have it as bad as many people, but none the less it can be quite debilitating.  When I do go out and about I’m usually with a friend or two who can support me if necessary.  So you can imagine what my love life is like!  Not very active to say the least.

This was getting me down enormously about three months back.  I basically had only one option if I wanted to have sex, and this was to book escorts to come to my home and screw me.  This is not what I wanted at all, and despite that, I couldn’t afford that sort of luxury!  So I joined a sex dating website that introduced me to a load of women who just wanted to meet and have sex with no strings at all!  This was perfect for me!

I met a girl called Isabelle on the site and we chatted a little for a few days online.  The chat turned naughty, as you can imagine it would with two people who just wanted to meet and have sex, and before long she agreed to come to my home.  This surprised me at first, but then I had been totally honest with her about my condition and she seemed fine with it.

When she arrived she was everything her pictures said she was and more.  She was confident and relaxed and it was her that made the first moves on me.  I was a little unnerved at first, but we got on like a house on fire and when we finally made it to the bedroom it was fantastic.  What I found best of all was the way she didn’t really tell me anything about herself that could connect her with anyone, anywhere.  I loved this type of girl!  She wasn’t interested in anything but the sex.  Since that first meeting we’ve been regular fuck buddies and things are going really well.  In this online sex dating business the trick is to meet a few people who you can get along with and who don’t want anything extra from you.  We all like to get on with our lives free from constraints and having a relationship for me, is not only quite impossible, but I actually don’t want one either; I have enough to do!

Young couple from Dudley, West Midlands with with a high sex drive

People think that because my boyfriend and I are young that we don’t have any problems.  Well, true enough, we don’t have that many, but we have come across a big one recently.  He wanted to see other people.  He said it was nothing to do with how our life was together, it’s just that he has a high sex drive and wants more of it.  I too love having sex, but I find that I can’t keep up with his desires and I certainly don’t have the same amount of time as he does!  I’m a student and he works part time in a bakery.  He’s as faithful as an old dog though and I know he doesn’t cheat on me, so I managed to find a solution in UK sex contacts.

I know it sounds like an unlikely choice, but I have to say that since we’ve been with these guys we’ve had no problems at all, and in fact my own sex drive has risen quite dramatically.  We are both very much in love and spend most of our free time together, but since we registered with UK sex contacts we’ve been meeting other people for sex!  It’s great because we meet people of all ages and all walks of life.  The other week we made out with a couple in their 50’s!  This is the oldest guy I’ve ever had sex with.  I’m only 20 years old, and I think the guy in his 50’s thought that Christmas had come early when he got hold of me.  My boyfriend learned a few things of the woman in her 50’s too!  When we got home, the next day we made out on our own and my boyfriend suddenly became a man during sex; it was incredible.  It was as though the woman he’d been screwing had told him how to do it properly.

It’s not just older couples we meet.  For my boyfriend’s birthday I agreed to meet a bi-sexual girl who wanted to meet couples.  He has never forgotten this experience and says it’s the best of his life.  He had one hell of a time watching me get it on with another girl (my first time) and then joining in himself; if it hadn’t been for all his extra training beforehand I don’t think he’d have coped with the action that presented itself to him!

So the sex dating thing is going really well now and I haven’t ever heard him ask to see other people.  Why would we need to do that now that we can see these people just for sex and also together!  Things couldn’t get much better at the moment, and it’s certainly a learning curve for us both sexually; we should be pretty damn good at it soon!

26 year old male from Manchester not getting any sex

UK Sex Contacts changed my life.  When I say that I don’t mean it lightly either.  I’m 26 years old and I love sex.  The only trouble was that I wasn’t getting any.  I’m not an ugly guy or anything, and it isn’t as if I don’t go out at all; I really do.  It’s just that whenever I do go out, I always end up having more fun dancing the night away and hanging out with my friends (some of whom are women), and not spending enough time on the pull!

That’s the problem you see.  Call me selfish if you like, but I can’t remember the last time I’ve ever had a decent one night stand.  I’m mostly a little drunk and most of the girls I used to end up taking home were pretty much the same too.  This is the main reason I joined the sex contacts site.  I’d often thought about it before, but never really had the courage to try it out; there’s a lot of stigma attached to dating sites still.

Without going into too much detail about what actually happened on my sex dates (I’m sure you’re not interested in the details), I can still tell you that it worked perfectly and I’m still doing it.  I’ve met four women through this site and they’re all into the same thing as me – namely no strings sex!  There’s a lot to be said for meeting someone of a like mind to enjoy quality time with and this is the best thing to happen to me.  The greatest thing for me was probably meeting someone for sex when we were both sober as judges!  We didn’t meet to socialise or have dinner or anything like that; neither of us wants to waste time when all we want is to screw!  It’s like having a fuck buddy I suppose.

I’ll go ahead and tell you about the last sex date I had anyway because it’s awesome.  I met Sandra (not her real name, we sex daters like to keep a low profile!) at a coffee shop next to a cheap hotel.  She was gorgeous in every sense of the word.  She was the fourth sex date and they were getting better and better.  When I joined up the sex dating website I initially thought that all the women would be a bit substandard or something; you know, desperate.  This couldn’t be further from the truth.  I’ve found that these women are ordinary women, and some of them are absolute babes!  Sandra was one of them.  We had some coffee and chatted a little about what we wanted from our date.  I was so aroused just talking to her about what we were going to do next door in the hotel that I could hardly contain myself.

She told me that her looks could often put men off.  She said they found her intimidating and unattainable.  I could see what she meant.  If I was to meet her in a club I’d never ask her out through fear of being rejected.  As it happens, it turns out this is what happened to her all the time, so she uses the sex dating to get her action and much prefers it this way because it cuts all the “bullshit” (her own words).

So it turns out that you could take two things out of this story.  You can either approach those girls in the club and take your chances, or you could join a sex dating site and get them all coming to you instead!