My husband and I have been experiencing difficult sexually for the last 15 months and we’ve been looking into various ways to revitalise things in the bedroom but have failed miserably. It’s not that we don’t love each other anymore, or even that we’re no longer attracted to each other; it’s just that something has been missing. We managed to fill that gap however with UK sex contacts. We’ve been dating other people now for around three months and things have never been better. They say that some couples need this sort of adventure in their sex lives and we’re both beginning to understand just how important it is now.
It all began with my husband fooling around on the computer one night and coming across a UK sex contacts website that looked pretty interesting. He said that perhaps we should look into doing something like this together. He said it in that kind of way that appeared to be jokey to begin with, but he was clearly gauging my reaction. I told him I’d be prepared to give anything a go and joked that we’re not having sex with each other so we may as well do it with someone else! We filled out the introduction etc together that evening before we went to bed.
By the morning we had a number of requests to contact and chat etc. We found another couple on there who seemed just like us. They too said that they were experiencing difficulties in their sex life and they had decided to join this site because a friend told them that they allow couples to interact on it too. I had always thought that these sort of sites were for single people only; or at least those looking for single sexual encounters. After chatting with this couple online for a few weeks we actually decided to go for it and meet them in a hotel not far away.
When we met them we found them to be exactly the same as us. They were both nervous and both clearly still thinking about whether or not they were doing the right thing. I think this is why we all got on so well together. Not only was it the first time for all concerned, but it was clear and present in everyone’s mind that we were going to have sex. It’s amazing how this kind of realisation presents you with the ability to drop all of your inhibitions at just the right time. That night we booked a room and invited this new couple of join us for drinks and some pretty adventurous sex. That night was the first time I’d engaged in anything sexual with my husband for a long time. We thoroughly enjoyed it, and now when we’re alone at home we’re constantly recalling our nights out with other couples; it really gets us going in the bedroom!
My husband is crippled and unable to have sex anymore. It took a long time to adjust to not having sex and although it sounds like I’m being selfish, I have spent many years like this, unable to get myself sexual satisfaction. However, my husband is a good man, and he asked me about it, and actually assumed that I had been having sex elsewhere anyway. When I told him I hadn’t he was mortified and decided that the best thing I could do would be to get myself some form of sexual entertainment. We were always very liberated sexually, but I never thought I’d hear him saying this. I guess this is what love is?
We looked into sex contacts on the internet and found it quite popular and easy to get involved in. I didn’t really want to do anything special, just maybe feel a man against my body again. I wanted him to be a good man, yet someone who understood my problem and didn’t encroach on my private life with my husband. Well, as it turns out, this is exactly what the sex contacts websites all had in common; they encouraged you to simply have sexual relationships. I found a guy and I’ve managed to maintain a healthy sex life with him without putting any strain at all on my marriage. My husband and I are still intimate in some ways, but never to the level I get from my sex contact.
You must understand however, as much as I enjoy having sex with my contact, I do not love him at all. I care about him and know a little about it, but not much. This is my choice and I like to keep this distance between us. Not only does it allow my marriage to remain unaffected by silly details, it also makes the sexual encounters that little bit more thrilling; the guy still feels like a stranger and I’ve found that I like that a lot. Who says you need to have sex with your husband all the time to make a marriage work? We are very happy together and I honestly think that even if it wasn’t for the accident, we may well have looked into this kind of sex contact service as a couple anyway; it isn’t as if we haven’t experimented before.
Some people I’ve chatted to via the online sex contacts websites have many partners out there and they like to swap around a little every now and then. I can see the fun element of this, but personally I think that if I was to do this it might be pushing the boundaries of my marriage. I went into the sex contacts world to find one man who I could see occasionally for no strings sex and that’s what I got; I really don’t think I’d be interested in a string of lovers, I don’t have the time or the energy!
My name is Jessica and I’m a serial sex dater. There, I’ve said it, and it almost feels like I’ve come along to sex daters anonymous to cure myself of an addiction; however, this is certainly not something I would even consider curing because it’s changed my life! Some people say that women shouldn’t engage in this sort of activity, but the way I see it is that these people are probably those who don’t have the courage to go through with it. As a single woman of independent means, I am totally confident in my decision to go into UK sex dating, and I do it with my eyes wide open. I know just what I’m doing and I am not (as some people like to think) being taken advantage of.
You see, this is the problem. When a man goes sex dating it’s considered either typical or acceptable, but when a woman does it some people think that you’re going to get attacked or something worse. There is no difference between the male or female when it comes to wanting to have sex with a stranger. If you want to get laid you go out and you try to chat someone up don’t you? Well, I’m no good at that, but it doesn’t mean I don’t want to have fun with guys who feel the same as me!
I must confess that I did feel a little nervous when I registered etc. I thought I would be bombarded by a load of horny deadbeats, but it simply wasn’t like that at all. The guys who contacted me seemed just as unsure as I was in the beginning. They were all perfectly honest, polite and enjoyed chatting with me as much as I them. Now, we all know why we were chatting, we’re not fools; it’s just a way of breaking ice. Eventually I got down to the nitty gritty with one guy online and we arranged to meet. I’d seen his pictures and he was so hot it was unbelievable; probably the hottest guy I’ve ever hooked up with.
We met in a pub near a hotel that we’d both agreed on staying in for the night (or however long we wanted!) His name was Graham and he was a really nice guy. If it hadn’t been for the fact that I seriously didn’t want a relationship and neither did he, I might have actually considered dating him on a regular basis. However, what you need to understand about sex dating is that no-one really wants to do this!
The evening didn’t last long in the pub. We skipped over to the hotel and did the deed several times and it was amazing. I won’t go into all the details with you here, I could write an erotic novel about the encounter! I have since seen Graham on three more occasions and each of them has been as good as the first time; in fact I’d even go so far as to say they have been better because we’re more familiar with each other now and know what the other wants out of sex!
People think that because my boyfriend and I are young that we don’t have any problems. Well, true enough, we don’t have that many, but we have come across a big one recently. He wanted to see other people. He said it was nothing to do with how our life was together, it’s just that he has a high sex drive and wants more of it. I too love having sex, but I find that I can’t keep up with his desires and I certainly don’t have the same amount of time as he does! I’m a student and he works part time in a bakery. He’s as faithful as an old dog though and I know he doesn’t cheat on me, so I managed to find a solution in UK sex contacts.
I know it sounds like an unlikely choice, but I have to say that since we’ve been with these guys we’ve had no problems at all, and in fact my own sex drive has risen quite dramatically. We are both very much in love and spend most of our free time together, but since we registered with UK sex contacts we’ve been meeting other people for sex! It’s great because we meet people of all ages and all walks of life. The other week we made out with a couple in their 50’s! This is the oldest guy I’ve ever had sex with. I’m only 20 years old, and I think the guy in his 50’s thought that Christmas had come early when he got hold of me. My boyfriend learned a few things of the woman in her 50’s too! When we got home, the next day we made out on our own and my boyfriend suddenly became a man during sex; it was incredible. It was as though the woman he’d been screwing had told him how to do it properly.
It’s not just older couples we meet. For my boyfriend’s birthday I agreed to meet a bi-sexual girl who wanted to meet couples. He has never forgotten this experience and says it’s the best of his life. He had one hell of a time watching me get it on with another girl (my first time) and then joining in himself; if it hadn’t been for all his extra training beforehand I don’t think he’d have coped with the action that presented itself to him!
So the sex dating thing is going really well now and I haven’t ever heard him ask to see other people. Why would we need to do that now that we can see these people just for sex and also together! Things couldn’t get much better at the moment, and it’s certainly a learning curve for us both sexually; we should be pretty damn good at it soon!